Comics, Coupons, and Negotiating

When we first moved to Ohio 7 years ago, I bought a subscription to the local paper in an effort to get to know the flavor and flaws of the area better.  It did help tremendously for both of those things, but after a couple of years, I switched to just the weekend papers so I could still get the coupons.  At the time a subscription only cost me about $5 each month.  Two or three years ago, they increased the cost of receiving a weekend paper to $13 and change/month!!

I started tracking the benefit of the coupons I clip and use each month.  It averages out to about $9/month.  Not enough to pay for the paper anymore.  Yesterday, I announced to the boys that I would be cancelling our subscription.  Benjamin and Caleb were horrified.  Nathaniel was, too, initially, but then he figured out how much the paper cost each year, and decided he could just get comic collections from the library for free.

Benjamin was ready to sign over his first born right there and then if I promised to keep getting the paper.  We came to an agreement that I would pay $8 each month for the paper, but it would cost him $5 each month.  He was willing to pay more just for the chance to read the Sunday comics, but I tried to use the moment to teach him about negotiation.  (He is historically awful at negotiating.  Nathaniel on the other hand seems to have a little Tom Sawyer in him.  I caught Benjamin doing Nathaniel's chores the other day, just for the chance to play Nathaniel's DS.  Benjamin owns a DS, too, but couldn't find it at the time.) Caleb wanted the comics, too, but knew Benjamin would pay.  So he disappeared for the negotiations saying, "Well, I don't care that much about comics."

Benjamin is good about earning money.  He's willing to work hard for it.  But once he gets it (after he puts a percentage in savings and tithing) it burns a hole in his pocket.  Ah, well.  I feel like he will learn the lesson eventually.  And probably sooner rather than later.  Smiths seem to be genetically predisposed towards accounting or other financial services.  In the meantime, I will try not to take too much advantage of him.

Facebook Etiquette

A while ago Facebook created a feature that let you just hover over the birthday reminders on the news feed and send a message from there without looking at the person's wall at all.  I was a fan.  The less clicking around the better for me.

I was glad that I wasn't really on facebook the last couple of days because it meant that I didn't hover and type.  My friend Sunshine had a birthday a few days ago.  The same day that her husband and two of her daughters were involved in a car crash that took the life of her oldest daughter.  They were on their way to buy a birthday cake for their Mom.

While I know it's nobody's fault, it is heartbreaking to look at her facebook wall and see all the "Hope your birthday is the best ever!" and "Have a great day, Sunshine!" comments.  Some of them were made before the accident, and several people came back and wrote apologies and condolences on her page afterwards, but there are a slew of messages still there because people just weren't aware and still aren't.

My heart hurts for her and her family.  I keep thinking how next year might be for her.  Will people forget and wish her "the best birthday ever" again because it's just so easy to hover and type without really knowing what's going on in a person's life?

This makes me feel like it's time to winnow my friend list (which I've never done before, I've always felt the more the merrier).  If I don't have time to really have some idea what is going on in the life of a friend, then I don't know that I should be listed as one of their friends.

Here are a few links to articles about the accident for those of you who knew Sunshine but hadn't heard.

• http://www.wkrn.com/story/16427359/hundreds-attend-vigil-for-spring-hill-crash-victims

  
• http://www.springhillinformer.com/

  
• http://www.fox17.com/

Resolutions for 2012

I typically do resolutions as the kids are headed back to school at the end of summer, but there are a few things I need to do better with right about now.  I post them publicly here to keep myself honest.

Spiritual Goals:
*Read/Listen to a talk from General Conference or the Ensign every day.
*Touch base more than once a month with those I visit teach.
*Be better about saying prayers in the morning.

Health Goals:
*Track via Weight Watchers online EVERY DAY.  (I'm a cheater on this one.  And it shows.)
*Get adequate rest to keep myself healthier this year.  Seriously.  The sickness has got. to. stop!
*Exercise 6 days a week. I currently do hour long exercise classes 3 days a week, but then do nothing the rest of the days of the week.  I need to be strong enough to do all that my family needs me to do.  No more being a bump on the log 4 days a week.

Organizational Goals:
*Clean for 1 hour every day 6 days each week.  This is the most painful for me so far.  The plan is to set a timer for 15 or 20 minutes and do as much in that room as I can do.  Then I get a break to read 1 chapter of whatever book I'm reading.  Then on to the next room, etc.  I think it's achievable for me.
*4 pages each week in scrapbooks done.  I recently had to move all of my scrapbooking stuff from the basement up to the Family Room while we redid the basement.  Seeing it all again rekindled my desire to work on it.  My kids love looking through their books so often that I feel terrible they don't have more to look at.

Me Goals:
*Read some classics.  Have a few friends over to discuss while we work on whatever crafty projects we have. Me?  I have a cross stitch to work on.
*Sign up for and run another 5K but get an awesome time.
*Sign up and fund raise for the MS walk in the Spring.
*Explore a new place in Ohio.

What are a few of your goals for the new year?

Ready? Set? GO!

Things I Miss

Several months ago Caleb and I stopped eating gluten.  Both of us have bad reactions to wheat.  Mine plays out in getting dishydrotic eczema all over my hands.  His makes him crazy hyper.  Neither one of these is a situation we would like to have, so we gave it up.

I cheated over Thanksgiving and was rewarded with painful blisters all over my hands that have just recently healed.  It's a powerful motivator for staying on a diet, let me tell you.

I'm not a huge bread person.  Regular bread does nothing for me, but a wonderful crusty baguette either with garlic butter or olive oil and salt?  Oh, that I miss!

When I couldn't eat any fat a few years ago because my gall bladder decided to quit working, my favorite go to comfort food was a big bowl of pasta with some of my delicious homemade tomato sauce.  I miss that a lot.  (Trust me, gf pasta just isn't the same.)

And this time of year when everyone is making their goodies and sharing with all, I miss brownies, chocolate chip cookies, pie, and chocolate covered pretzels.  (Thank goodness I can still eat chocolate!!)

I have very real and painful consequences if I eat any of these foods, but like most things forbidden, there are just times when I WANT!

I was thinking a few weeks ago how much easier it would be to "be good" if we suffered physical pains for cheating at other things.  Like if I broke out all over my face if I didn't read my scriptures every day.  Or if I got a canker sore each time I had an uncharitable thought about somebody else.  I'm glad it's not that way.  I certainly try to be Christ-like, but I often fail miserably.

And now I'm off to try to plan holiday meals without gluten.  Yippee. 

Thanksgiving 2011

Thanksgiving was a whirlwind with many many hours spent in the car, but it was wonderful to be able to spend some time in FL and GA visiting with relatives that we don't get to see often enough.  And because I just spent the last couple of hours working on this, you can see the pictures for the story.

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I love Shutterfly for making a quick post-vacation photo album possible! Shutterfly photo books.

I hope your holiday was wonderful, too!

Washington D.C. Legos

Caleb had a unit in school where he learned all about many of our national monument.  He got really into it and would come home each night excited to tell us new and interesting facts about whatever they'd discussed that day.  

 One night while I was making dinner, Caleb came up from the basement to show me this wonderful creation.  From memory, he did the Washington Monument, Lincoln Memorial and the National Mall.

He insisted I take a picture so he could send it in to the Lego magazine.  Each month they highlight kids who create something new and different out of the gazillions of Lego sets they already have.  He's very excited by the very idea of being in correspondence with the good people at Lego.

I am very proud of Caleb who is forever embracing all of his creative interests.

Halloween in High Fashion

If I needed any hint that Lilyanna is very much her own person and not a little copy of me (despite all baby pictures to the contrary), last night was the perfect event to highlight a few of those differences.  Lilyanna cares VERY MUCH about shoes.  This has been the case since she was old enough to wear them.  Now, I understand a love of shoes.  I wear a size 10.5 which is a nearly impossible size to find and thus makes it so I don't have a closet rivaling Imelda Marcos.  Lilyanna may eventually inherit this unfortunate shoe size, but in the meantime, she will happily change shoes 6 times a day according to her mood.  By the time she was 14 months old, Todd was irked that she was taking up more room on the shoe rack than he was.

It was her love for shoes which inspired her costume this year.  That and a sale on sparkly shoes at Target.  $10 sparkly shoes?  Yes, please.

Lilyanna understood how to trick or treat in a way that none of my boys understood this early in their development.  I figured we would go down our street and then come back and join Todd in passing out candy to everyone else.  Not so.  Lilyanna literally pulled me around the block AND insisted on going up every single driveway to EVERY house regardless of whether it was inhabited or not.  We were out almost as long as her brothers.  She also kept her candy basket in her hot little had the whole time.  It probably weighed half as much as she did, but she refused to let go of it, or go home because it was getting too heavy.

It was a little chilly on Halloween and Lilyanna's costume had short sleeves, so I brought her red hoodie along.  We had the following conversation several times:

Me:  Lilyanna, are you cold?

Her: Yeah.

Me: Do you want to wear your jacket?

Her: NOOOOO!!!  Pretty dress!!

While she doesn't have words for this yet, she didn't want to ruin the lines of her outfit!!  This is where she and I wildly diverge.  I am happiest in comfy clothes.  I used to look through clothing catalogs and say, "Ooo, doesn't that look comfortable?", to the eye rolling of the gaggle of gay boys.  At one point Mark declared I wasn't allowed to shop by myself anymore because I dressed myself like "a granola crunchy lesbian" (A term endearingly used by the Queen Mother, John, in reference to me) when left to my own devices.  

It appears Lilyanna has not inherited THAT propensity of mine.

Anyway.  Here is the cuteness:

"Yes, Mommy, I did already eat some chocolate."

"I have my shoes, my dog, and my basket.  LET'S GO!!"

"I am cute."

We reached a neighbor's house who had a fire going in the driveway.  She was freezing by then, and pulled up a chair to sit by the fire and warm up before she headed back to our house.  But she still refused her hoodie.  She is cute, but oh, the opinions!